Sixth Anniversary of my Tatay’s Passing Away

I don’t recall if I ever wrote about the reason why I live at home with my Mom…

Six years ago on this day, Tatay (father in Tagalog) passed away. Since then, seems like my life has drastically changed. I moved back home to Vallejo so I can live with my Mom. My brother, who is divorced, currently lives here, but he works nights, so there would be no one here in the evenings with my Mom… and I could not let that happened, so I gave up living on my own in my apartment in Alameda and came back to Vallejo.

Looking back, I love living back here. I do miss going out several times a week after work, but once in a while I do hang out with my friends, such as last weekend. I also gained a vegetable garden which I love and I get home cooked Filipino food. Yummy… (and I gained weight because of this… hehe)

The first few years were difficult, because I had to adjust to a 1.5 hour commute instead of 30-40 minutes or so. I also had to take care of many paperwork and legal stuff that involved my Dad, which I hated doing, because I didn’t understand all that stuff… Luckily, me and my brother were able to slowly take care of stuff little by little, until most to all things were completed… I also was able to save buku money and pay all my credit card debts. Things have kinda settled though the years and things are much less stressful.

I miss Tatay and sometimes I feel like we didn’t have enough time together… in reality, we did do many things when I was a kid.

I took a half day off at work and left early to visit Tatay at the cemetery. I got some flowers and placed it on his headstone and spent a little time remembering him.

Afterwards, I went home and helped Nanay (my Mom) water some plants in the back yard. Nanay went to visit Tatay earlier today with my brother. My brother and I also finally put away the Christmas decorations, lights, ornaments, parol and other things back to the attic… I already took them down about a week ago, but they were in the living room waiting to be placed away.

  • I know it’s hard missing your father. I went through that, too, a long time ago. Bless you for caring so much about your mom. We have only one, don’t we? That’s what I told Mom the other day. They care for us for so long, how can we not return that love and care?

    I hope your memories of your dad, even though you miss him, bring you peace and warmth.

    • That’s my exact thoughts… With all the support and help they have given me… it’s time for me to do this same…

      Do you live with your Mom too? For some reason, I assumed you did from your last entry…

  • Lovely post honoring your Dad.

    If you had ever posted about how you came to be living with your mom, I had missed it, so it was interesting to learn the route you took to come to live there. With your love of plants and gardening, I can see where the addition of a garden was a huge plus. You are also such an excellent son to be so dutiful and good to your mom. You are a good guy indeed Joey.

    • Thank you for your kind words :) I was just briefly looking over my LiveJournal and I don’t think I did post about how I got to Vallejo… I did have a few post about the moving process on my old journal back in January-March 2003.

      You are correct about the addition of a garden being a huge plus. I did quiet a bit of work on it, since it was not as built up and cement like now. Here’s a old photo of my garden when I was a kid:

      Old Square Foot Garden