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  • Tell him straight up that the antics he’s pulling are making you not want the house. Tell him that you were were 95% sure and now 60% because of the way he is behaving. Detach yourself emtionally. He’s playing with your emotions (note last statement about a house nextdoor to your mom). Don’t let him. Decide exactly what you want regarding price and matter of payment (as in no dealer financing) and don’t veer from this. How many sellers is he going to find that want the house? He’s been playing you for weeks not in hopes of milking you. Don’t let him. If this means not getting this house, so be it. There will be others.

    • Thanks for your advice bezigebij… New developments have occured and I’m hoping to meet with him to discuss the house further. I think I know what I want and hopefully it’ll agree with him.

  • This guy obviously thinks he has you over a barrel. I would be telling him what you are willing to do and to take it or leave it. If he agrees to it or something reasonable, then buy it. If not, forget it. No way should you have to pay through the nose like that.

    • Good advice! I’ll see what he agrees to… and I won’t go for it if it’s too much… although everything here in the San Francisco Bay Area is TOO much… I guess it’s relative…

  • I agree with your conclusions. He’s trying to press you into something where most of the benefits are for him and very little are for you. That’s not negotiation. Is it possible there is something wrong that he is afraid an experienced agent might find?

    • Yeah… and he’s being a cheap skate (is that the right term?)… But, with his last email, it seems like he is willing to give in a little… so I’m seeing that as a positive sign… Wish me luck!

  • Yup…it sounds like he playing you big time. And it’s not going to end up well if you continue down *his* chosen path. As hard as it will be, I would just back down and say “My terms or not at all”…the end. If he’s acting like this with you he will do it to anyone that comes knocking to buy the house…and I don’t think they will put up with it either.

    • I think my fall in wanting the house is actually a good thing… that way I can negotiate without feeling desperate. I definitely will not owner finance because I have a loan which I’m happy with.

      Argh! With all this drama… I haven’t had time for my garden…

  • I agree with your other commenters. Maybe he has the only house next to your mother’s that’s for sale, but do you have to be next to your mother? Wouldn’t somewhere in the neighborhood do almost as well? You might simply tell him you’re more comfortable with the transaction in the hands of a professional and that’s that.

    • At this time, it’s very important for me to be near my mom. Last night I just let my train of though go wild and wrote a whole page of what I want and what I saw important to me… and being with my mom tops the list.

      Of course, not getting the house doesn’t mean I can’t look elsewhere in the nearby neighborhood. I’ll just have to see how this pans out…

  • I’m so sorry Joey.

    • Thank you… Everything will be ok though… I actually had a little cry when my friend called to say they won’t represent me as a buyer’s agent (see next entry)… but then… I just thought to myself… I guess this is just a different path with another adventure… Let’s see how it turns out…